Yes, I know I’ve said it before, but I’m here to tell you again unless you are meditating daily, you aren’t meditation enough! There are multiple ways to learn, practice, and be guided through mediation for anyone who has never even attempted. This one I’ve recommended specifically for my father, after his own attempt to
In case you haven’t heard there is some hot debate in the recovery community right now involving two seemingly small contractions; can’t and don’t. To anyone on the outside looking in, it seems like a petty issue and it is, in fact, a small matter, though to those of us in sobriety, the ‘can do’s’
Dreams have fascinated people for years, to the extent that ancient Greeks and Romans considered dream interpretation to be an art form. If that’s the case, what, if anything, does having a relapse dream mean? I am not a dream interpreter, however, my own dreams have revealed a lot about my personal psyche that I
Google the Sackler name, and heading the results is an article by Forbes touting the Sackler’s as being the 19th wealthiest families in the United States, though it makes no mention of the blood money that built this family. Maybe you’ve seen their names have been seen in museums and colleges all around the northeast;
650 days sober! I suppose I should start by saying, whether it’s your first day, or thousandth (yes, you know who you are), it’s not a moment too soon! This isn’t an easy journey and I give so much respect to everyone who is struggling to break free from addiction, no matter where you are
For Christmas, I received a timely bracelet (from my mother, oddly enough) that says, ‘Find the Good,’ and since the day I have put it on I have tried to find the good in every day. As some of you who follow my blog know, my mom passed earlier this month, and to say the
While I am a huge Peanuts fan, I’m not referring to Charlie Brown when I spout, ‘Good Grief!’ Otherwise known as ‘healthy coping’. For those of us in the sobriety community, these are the exact things we have been striving to find and utilize. In a list of most stressful things someone can go through,
In the UK, 20 people daily die as a result of their own drinking, and the total amount of lives affected is innumerable. As a result, Dry January has become a widely accepted ‘challenge’ -for lack of a better term. Although, the public campaign isn’t entirely about abstaining from alcohol
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.” -a quote by Dr. Maya Angelou Most people live this way, in all reality; addicts are not exempt from this. Believe it or not, most people who become addicts are doing all they can to cope with some deep-seated
It’s a pretty widely accepted fact that the human body is usually 75-55% water, depending on the person’s stage of life and gender. It’s also pretty widely accepted that the moon effects every huge body of water on the planet -as evident by the changing tides. However, when you link the two, the moon having
Well, as I mentioned in my last blog, if you really need to find a ‘new crowd’ or a new tradition to maintain your sobriety this NYE, then so be it! However, I realize this might bring up some stress and anxiety for a lot of people, in a day and age where we all
Well, 2019 is knocking at the door, and before you finish blinking we will be ringing in the New Year! As we leave 2018 in the dust, here are some other things to turn up your coat tails to while you are at it! second guessing your decisions explaining yourself focusing on the past feeling
Yes, yes I know New Year’s Eve is the champagne holiday of the year, but I promise you, it doesn’t have to be as scary as you think. With a few simple sober life hacks, you will glide through the midnight hour; glass slippers intact. The first step in taking away the power something has
If you have spent any amount of time in recovery from any addiction, you’ve gotten your fill of cliche recovery quotes and generic inspirational sayings. There is a very good reason for this, that reason being, they work. However, you might be tired of some of those, so here are some new ones! *Spoiler Alert*
It happens periodically, where I find myself face-to-face with alcohol; either in restaurants, parties or other random social settings. It seems to be rather unavoidable in this day and age, actually. I would be naive to think that I could navigate the rest of my life completely avoiding alcohol. However, I’ve become ok with this
What many people don’t realize is that relapse doesn’t always sneak up on you in the shadows and pounce on the unsuspecting. In fact, behavior studies show relapse-behavior can predate the actual act of relapse by as little as 90 days. More often than not, by recognizing these behavioral patterns, you can, in all likelihood,
There are a lot of traditions that don’t involve alcohol that you can partake in while in recovery. Let’s face it, a lot of us are adults trying to find our way in this new world of sobriety which can really get lonely; especially around the holidays. Most everyone has their routines or are trying
click song titles for downloads, and band names for more background info on the lyrics =} Chances are you’ve heard, Rehab by Amy Winehouse, Breaking The Habit by Linkin Park, Sober by Pink, or Wasted by Carrie Underwood, on the radio at some point. While these are very obviously titled recovery songs, there are some
It was fun while it lasted FoMO, but like all things, it’s time to close this chapter and move forward. When the phrase FoMO, short for Fear of Missing Out, was coined in the late 90’s it took a while before it caught on like wildfire, and before you knew it everyone and their mother
There are a lot of people who will never understand addiction simply because they refuse to believe it can happen to them, so I get that a lot of my blog topics might fall on deaf ears for those who have never been involved.
Not everyone can wrap their mind around addiction, because they’ve never dealt with it. So let’s talk about something we’ve all dealt with – the $$
My journey could have ended April 2017, and my friends and peers would still have gone on to live their lives. So, I feel an enormous sense of gratitude that I get to be here to witness…
Ibogaine Ever heard of it? Don’t feel bad if you say no, I hadn’t either until a few weeks ago. As it turns out, Ibogaine is a naturally occurring psychoactive substance found in some plants. It carries some pretty heavy side effects, but it also has been used to treat addiction, depression and I’ve even
When looking at the statistics of recovery and relapse, the numbers can really play a big part of your state of mind during recovery. I remember when I was still just around six months sober before I’d made the decision to blog about my own journey, I read a blog someone had written about relapse
7,000 teenage kids at and around the age of 16 are taking their very first drink today. 7,000 teens yesterday. 7,000 teens today. 7,000 teens tomorrow. And every year, 4,700 teens under 17 die due to alcohol use. Roughly 1,700 kids between the ages of 17 and 21 die every year due to accessive drinking.
Recovery from addiction is not entirely about building a life free from chemical dependency, but it also deals a great lot in building new healthy habits. The newest of mine is reading. Sometimes I feel like a Burgess Meredith character in the Twilight Zone just trying to steal a few more minutes of time -a
Well, #soberoctober has come to a close, and hopefully, you all made it through relatively unscathed. For me, it was a month of both struggles and rewards; both in dramatic extremes. When I was diagnosed with cirrhosis, it was at such a stage that doctors were not even considering that I might live past 90
When you go through recovery, a lot of people think of the typical AA meetings, having sponsors, and the 12 steps; but that is far from the only way to recover. Take it from me; at 18 months sober as of yesterday, October 20th . The only AA meetings I’ve been to /were way before
If you follow me on Instagram, you saw my recent post about a thing I referred to as “Social Debt”. Social debt is the term (I have assigned) to describe the feeling like you owe people. apologies for your decisions explanations for your choices reasons for your actions excuses for your feelings You don’t! Just
Perhaps you missed it because quite frankly, I did, but Seattle based rapper Mackelmore most certainly did not as he headlined for the first ever Recovery Fest, September 29, 2018. Last week in Rhode Island, while the rest of us were still jaw-dropping at the arrival of pumpkin spice, Above the Noise (a non-profit that
Do you ever wake up in the middle of the night stressed, or possibly even upset about things you might not have control over? In these wee hours of the morning when you comfort yourself back to sleep, it is very crucial that your thoughts during this time are positive. I’ve practiced all the affirmations,
Well, this round with celebrity addiction was especially jarring for Mac Miller fans and rap listeners around the globe; bringing to light the very real probability that, left untreated, addiction too, can and will kill you. -and before anyone starts in with that, “people die every day and no one bats an eye but one
It’s very hard sometimes, to monitor our own progress because we acclimate to the change as it comes. Much like if you were to walk to the top of a high mountain, on your way up, your body would slowly adjust to the changes in elevation. You might not even have noticed your ears popped
Life is nothing if not a constant learning process and to that end, some things get forgotten and fall by the wayside. So this post is going to be a quick refresher of things that sometimes get overlooked when we start to navigate our way through life. no explanations no excuses give yourself a break
No, I’m not making things up this is an actual award, given by bloggers entirely over the internet to another blogger. The word Liebster itself gives much of the award it’s value, as it’s German translation is ‘beloved’. So when I was nominated for such an award where fellow bloggers feel my work is deserving
Recently, I’ve been asked a lot about finding yourself in early recovery. Who am I without this addiction? What do I enjoy? How do I honestly feel? Before you know it you are lost in your own identity crisis, on shaky ground at best. It’s easy to understand that you feel these things, and they
One thing I wish someone would have taught me at a young age is that no one has the right to make you feel scared, hurt, or any sort of unrest. No one! If anything in this life costs you your peace of mind, the price is too high and it’s ok to let
Thrill seekers and adrenaline-junkies may be onto something when it comes to chasing and tackling your fears. Obviously, I’m not going to advocate that you become a stuntman/woman. I’m not telling you to start living life on the edge and jump out of the next plane you are on, barrel ride over the Niagra or
I know that I have touched on positive affirmations and how to form them in one of my earlier blogs, Recalibrate Your Compass but I feel like I might have underplayed the important role they can play in everyday life. -It is especially crucial for people who are in a relapse cycle, new recovery journey
“Actually, I hated drinking; I loved the escape.” When this statement fell out of my mouth this weekend, I was just as shocked at its bluntness as I was taken aback by the veracity of the statement. The truth is I have hated alcohol from an early age. I remember mistakingly grabbing a grown-up’s drink
Much like every other instance in life, we watch the celebrities face personal trials and triumphs and we collectively mourn or celebrate according. When these people are at the top of their game we are all on the sidelines rooting for them, and even more stunning, when they are down-and-out we collectively feel a loss.
They open up a very personal part of their lives to us, and in return, we loyally show unwavering support and embrace them.
Demi Lovato is one of these people.
Well, here we are approaching another summer holiday and for some of you, I know it’s officially crunch time. Summer parties send up triggers and temptation like landmines, and it seems impossible to walk through a minefield and never catch some shrapnel. My advice: STEER CLEAR OF “MOCKTAILS“!!! Even the word feels haughty to say!
A sliver of light broke over the horizon as I poured myself into bed this morning; happy, clear-headed and completely sober. I did it! I officially attended (and survived) my first typical adult party without consuming so much as a drop of alcohol. Sure, I have been out and about with friends who were
Your recovery is directly dependant on your honesty and to some degree your ability to be vulnerable while still communicating effectively. This, for many people and for any number of reasons can be especially scary. Although, I don’t have to fact check to tell you that being emotionally vulnerable won’t kill you. Sure, it’s uncomfortable
In recovery a lot of people will ask, ‘what was your key’ or ‘how did you stay sober’ and I never really have an answer. Well, that’s a lie, I have a ton of answers to those questions, but that’s the issue. Explaining ALL that recovery is, to someone not in recovery looks a lot
Essential Oils: Are They Essential To Your Recovery? Whether you have dabbled in them or are well-versed, I bet you haven’t considered the fundamental role essential oils can have in your recovery process.
Regardless of what my next post was intended to be, in light of the recent news events I think it’s only right we have the conversation no one want’s to have; the talk about the “S” word. -No, not sex. No one has trouble talking about that anymore it’s an open talk of discussion. No
When you really start to map out all that you manage and deal with on a daily basis, it’s actually kind of crazy.
So when we start to feel run down, worn thin, and generally stretched to the max, why do WE feel like failures? Why do we so closely relate our self-worth in our ability to work ourselves to the bone with our job(s), parenthood, night school or whatever else you are trying to juggle?
This gets amplified for addicts who are:
still using, because they feel like they will never be able to overcome the pressure
in recovery who already feel a step behind the rest of the game because they are back at square one.
When did our self worth depend on our ability to drown ourselves in responsibility until we are just treading water?
Well, readers, it’s Memorial Day weekend, so now is just as good as any to address the elephant in your recovery room; celebrations. Also how i overcame my FOMO – “…we talked about a lot on these drives…this day, in particular, might have saved my life…”, and how to take your power back! -catch ya on the #soberside
Growing up 20 miles south of the Grand Canyon was different, to say the least, but it taught me a lot about being grateful. Take for instance that it is one of the most popular tourist destinations in the country, with more than 7 million people visiting annually. The beauty of this natural wonder is
Recently I was asked a seriously thought-provoking question by a very close friend of mine. I’ve debated on the answer internally and tossed it around as a blog idea for weeks now. While I am sure there are valid points to each argument; I offer a slightly different middle ground of a solution. So the
As you know, 2018 drew to a close and for those of us in the blogging community, it was quite the busy year. The web was abuzz with news about politics, fashion, celebs, and almost everything in between. Of course, those of us in the blogosphere were busy with business as usual, and those of
My mom kept a lot of things. -that may be a vast understatement. Growing up I knew she kept, matchbooks, mementos, and refrigerator magnets. She collected pens with marketing promos and hotel notepads. Even in later years, she would stop to pick up old hubcaps on the roadside for potential yard art, and eyeball wooden
Early on in my recovery, I took an admittedly, ill-formed opinion on Mocktails. (As evident by the post, I clearly had no idea what a Mocktail even was.) The opinion was that Mocktails, while tasty, will leave you wishing there was just a zing of alcohol in them -and I couldn’t have been more wrong.