Month: June 2018

Is Addiction A Life Sentence?

“Once an addict, always an addict.”

If you have been in recovery for any amount of time, you have heard this statement. Which is why my last blog, Reflections probably had some of you reeling. This is one of the more damming renowned recovery statements.

I use the word ‘damming’ to describe it because I feel that way when I hear it. Like my entire recovery is being funneled into this life sentence telling me repeatedly that eventually, I will relapse. That seems like a bum rap from the jumpstart if you ask me.

Am I the only one who feels like this system is setting me up for the mindset that I will inevitably fail, rather than that I will undoubtedly succeed?

Reflections Of The Past While Moving Forward

A sliver of light broke over the horizon as I poured myself into bed this morning; happy, clear-headed and completely sober.   I did it! I officially attended (and survived) my first typical adult party without consuming so much as a drop of alcohol. Sure, I have been out and about with friends who were

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We Tried Brutal, Now Let’s Try Compassionate Honesty

Your recovery is directly dependant on your honesty and to some degree your ability to be vulnerable while still communicating effectively. This, for many people and for any number of reasons can be especially scary. Although, I don’t have to fact check to tell you that being emotionally vulnerable won’t kill you. Sure, it’s uncomfortable

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Addiction Isn’t A Choice, You Are Just Hurt

I’m going to take some time to talk about something that I feel, is a little missunderstood from both, the addict in recovery and the person who loves/ is affected by the addict and their addiction. It’s something I have no doubt you have all heard. “Addiction is a choice.” Yeah? Is it? Do you

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Find Your ‘Fix’ In Nature

In recovery a lot of people will ask, ‘what was your key’ or ‘how did you stay sober’ and I never really have an answer. Well, that’s a lie, I have a ton of answers to those questions, but that’s the issue. Explaining ALL that recovery is, to someone not in recovery looks a lot

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Essential Oils: Are They Essential To Your Recovery?

Essential Oils: Are They Essential To Your Recovery? Whether you have dabbled in them or are well-versed, I bet you haven’t considered the fundamental role essential oils can have in your recovery process.

Destructive Patterns: Why Is Our Own Behavior Our Biggest Enemy?

The human brain is phenomenal at recognizing patterns and anticipating outcomes. In fact, our ability to do this, is arguably what puts us at the top of the food chain. That being said, why can it be increasingly difficult to recognize and change our own self-destructive behavior? When you are a small child, in the

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WE STAND UP FOR LIFE

Regardless of what my next post was intended to be, in light of the recent news events I think it’s only right we have the conversation no one want’s to have; the talk about the “S” word. -No, not sex. No one has trouble talking about that anymore it’s an open talk of discussion. No

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Self-Worth, Juggling, And You

When you really start to map out all that you manage and deal with on a daily basis, it’s actually kind of crazy.

So when we start to feel run down, worn thin, and generally stretched to the max, why do WE feel like failures? Why do we so closely relate our self-worth in our ability to work ourselves to the bone with our job(s), parenthood, night school or whatever else you are trying to juggle?

This gets amplified for addicts who are:

still using, because they feel like they will never be able to overcome the pressure

or

in recovery who already feel a step behind the rest of the game because they are back at square one.

When did our self worth depend on our ability to drown ourselves in responsibility until we are just treading water?

First, Find Your Keys

One thing I’m still astounded by is the power of the human mind; take for instance your will to quit. Isn’t it fascinating how, when you wanted to use your mind would justify nearly any behavior? So what is the key to saying goodbye to that addiction? Why is it that when you want to

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