Sometimes, life gets messy and you forget some fundamental rules along the way. Likewise, while we focus on our recovery, some things fall to the wayside. Here are some rules to live by that you might have forgotten about, and some you can really start implementing now! They will make your life significantly easier and less stressful.
Words and quotes to live by that anyone can start practicing in order to bring themselves peace of mind and clarity.
Which brings me to my first "rule" if you will.
1) Honesty is the best policy.
Sometimes the most basic things we learned as children get jumbled in the blurred lines of life. Really, honesty is the best policy. When you lie, one tiny lie begets more tiny lies and like anything in bulk, it becomes one enormous mass of unmanageable mess.
You will save yourself from a lot of unwanted stress and turmoil if you think in things in the context of, 'in the instance that I am forced to confess to this action, will I be ok being 100% honest about the situation and my involvement in it.' If the answer is, 'no i wouldn't admit that to a single soul', then the odds are, you probably shouldn't be doing whatever you are doing...
next 'rule' to start living by
2) 5x5 rule
If something starts to upset you, think to yourself and ask, 'is this going to matter to me in 5 years?'
If the answer is no, then you don't need to spend more than 5 minutes, or even 5 seconds worrying about it.
Quite a life-changing concept.
3) Silence is golden
Again, take it back to basics with this on; especially when you are angry and upset. First and foremost, if you don't have anything nice to say, simply don't say it. Those words will almost indefinitely come back to haunt you at some point, or in some way. Silence, however, is very difficult to misquote.
Even more important, you dishonor yourself by stooping to that level. You know, the level where hurtful words toward others just fly out of your mouth. That's not you, is it? So stop acting like that. Simply walk away, silently and dignified.
4) Do your own thing
It's a world of difference between walking alone in the right direction, and walking with the crowd in the wrong direction -in order to not be alone.
Stop comparing yourself;
- to others
- to ideas
- to people's ideas of you
Comparison is breeding grounds for contempt; so just stay away entirely. Don't be afraid to walk alone sometimes, in fact, your journey will call for it. Embrace the solitude of doing your own thing and learn from it.
5) Let it go
This one is really difficult, even for me. Sometimes letting go of something seems like admitting that it doesn't matter anymore or that it never did, to begin with. In reality, letting go is one of the biggest forms of self-love.
Letting go is about personal peace, and knowing that no matter what happens you will figure out a way to make it work for you. It doesn't say 'I don't care' but it says that you care enough about yourself to not let it rob you of your peace of mind.
These are just five of many rules you can start applying practically to your daily life in order to bring yourself some peace, clarity, and happiness while remaining dignified and honoring your true self.
In no way are they ordered by level of importance or anything like that, they are just the most recent that have surfaced in my life. Feel free to find some motivational rules to live by that fit your life and apply them where you see fit.
I know personally, I need to shut my mouth a little more and that is what I am working on. What are some basic words to live by that you would like to practice more? Or perhaps you already have some of your own rules to live by that help maintain peace of mind? Feel free to comment below to share yours; I'm very curious to know.
Don't forget that you don't have to be recovering from anything, in particular, to begin your journey into self-discovery -recover yourself.