Being a recovering alcoholic, this one was usually my number one rule. "Keep your glass full", or at least, "keep 'em coming" was my Modus Operandi; Gray Goose and make it strong. Now though, keeping my glass full simply means taking time to rejuvenate and recharge my own internal energy.
At one point or another, we have all worn ourselves threadbare trying to do the impossible;
- overloaded work schedule
- nonstop social life
- being everyone's financial bailout
Sometimes you have to say enough is enough, I can't keep doing this at this rate. It isn't that you are a bad person, or you are trying to hurt someone else, it's just simply the fact that you have to focus on replenishing your own stock.
"You can't pour from an empty cup."
Well, you can try but you won't get anything but frustrated and even more exhausted than you were to start. It isn't selfish to take some time for yourself! I promise you, it isn't.
- Having some alone time isn't selfish ----> taking an extended vacation alone while using your spouse's retirement fund, is selfish.
- Saying no to someone else's expense that will break your bank, is not selfish ----> having someone else go broke to pay for your expenses while you pocket the difference, is selfish.
- Refusing just one work project all month is not selfish ----> refusing every work project all year and expecting to make the management promotion, is selfish.
Do you see how those are different? No?
Well, the former are all indeed self-serving actions, they are not whole-heartedly rooted in selfishness. Still unclear of the difference?
Selfish: lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure
Self Serving: having concern for one's own welfare and interests before those of others.
Are things getting clear yet?
Selfish actions very rarely involve the forethought or concern of how it will affect others; or in worse cases, blatant disregard for those concerns.
Actions that are self-serving, promote your own personal well being before the care of others. That is to say that other peoples needs, cares, and concerns are still of importance to you. Therefore the self-serving action must take place, in order for the trickle-down effect to reach them. Thus filling your own cup, and the filling cups of those around you.
Even with the best intentions, you can't expect to run at full octane all the time and not need a tune-up every now and then.
Fill your glass, in the proverbial sense. Take time for you and take time to do things that make yourself feel better.
Be sure to fill your own glass, water your own grass, tune your own engine and insert your own metaphor. Before you run yourself until empty, stop and refill your own glass